In this Lambda Reports episode, Charles Koehler hosts a discussion with three guests—Nancy Moldenhauer, Mark Lammert, and Mark Kalk—about the complexities of being in a lesbian or gay couple. They explore the invisibility of such couples, the challenges of coming out twice, and the lack of societal acceptance and legal rights. The conversation highlights the importance of compromises in relationships, the need for open communication, and the necessity of legal documents like wills and powers of attorney. The guests share personal experiences and offer advice on maintaining healthy relationships, emphasizing self-responsibility for happiness and the value of mutual friendship.